Happy Monday, Heifers! If it's Monday, you know what that means, right? Unless you're new 'round these parts, you know that today means #MondaysWithMelissa is up on "The Twitter." (See below, I saved you from having to go to twitter to watch it, it's embedded right here... you're welcome).
Today's question comes from Courtenay. She is awesome. If you don't follow her, and you're on twitter, you're missing out. Such a positive, upbeat and FUN lady. I dig her. You will too.
Courtenay asked me to talk about disappointment as it relates to weight loss. Lord have mercy. Having lost over 100 pounds, I know a thing or two about a pound or two.
Weight loss is HARD. As I talked about HERE, there's no magic pill for this stuff. There's nothing you can do to 'accelerate' your weight loss - no pill, no grapefruit diet, no saran wrap body insulating wrap (do people still do these? I tried 'em. they left me sticky, sweaty, and disappointed, craving cookies, but whatever).
So, you're on your weight-loss plan, and you're rocking through each week, losing at a nice pace...and then.... BLAMMO!
You have a 'bad' day or a few bad days (cough cough, I can relate to this lately)... and the scale treats you like you're the red-headed stepchild suddenly.
It's bad news.... you step on ... you brace for what you already know is coming, you just don't know how BAD the damage is... and then..... ugh. You exhale when you see you've gained weight. Maybe a pound. Maybe more. Whatever it is, you're disappointed. How do you deal with that in a CONSTRUCTIVE way versus SELF-DESTRUCTIVE way?
You have a choice, heifers. You can get mad, get sad, and go eat pizza, cookies, or bratwurst in the corner and console yourself with the very food that got you in this predicament in the first place...
You can deal with it. Put your big girl panties on and get back on track. You already know that's my way, right?
Everyone has weeks where they gain, and THAT'S OK. What you have to keep in mind is that it's normal. It doesn't feel ok. It can be devastating, demoralizing, and just plain shitty.
I GET IT.
You can't lose EVERY week. Everyone has hormone issues that keep us fluctuating even daily, and we all retain water, etc. Weighing yourself daily is a double edged sword to begin with (mind you, I do it anyway, I'm a data person, I like the data, even if it pisses me off).
So keep a few things in mind: a weight gain this week does NOT mean you throw in the towel. No no no. You plant your feet firmly on the ground (preferably not inside one of those Mrs. Fields cookie shops in the mall) and you take a good hard look at your goals.
WHY did you start? WHY do you want to lose the weight? Are you unhealthy? Unfit? Are you trying to fit into a wedding dress or those size 8 pants from college?
Stay focused. Stay aware of what you're eating, and get RIGHT back on track. One day can SO easily turn into one week, into a month etc... and that is a slippery slope you don't want to travel down.
Celebrate the pounds you HAVE lost, and keep your eye on the prize. The most important thing, as it relates to weight loss, and life in general - there will ALWAYS be disappointments. Always... ALWAYS... don't give up. Ever.
Relentless Forward Motion is the key here. Weight gain happens. But so does weight loss. Get right back on track, and know that you're not alone. You have an entire herd of heifers, right here, in the HeiferHood, who not only understand what you're going through - we have all been there, some of us are STILL there, who are here to encourage you and lift you up on your bad days.
Join us HERE on Facebook and share your frustration, success, tips, etc... we're all in this together. There's no need for you to feel alone. Because you're not. No heifer needs to roam alone. Especially in times of frustration.
Pick yourself back up. Ask for help, encouragement, etc., and get right back on track. That's the only way to reach your goals. Success doesn't come knocking on your front door disguised as the Brittanica Encyclopedia guy. (I just dated myself here, y'all, most young kids have no idea what the heck I just said)... Success is something you work HARD for.
You have to fight your way through some harder disappointments sometimes get to the top, but that's ok. Because you're not alone, and once you're a heifer, we won't LET you give up.
That's what being a heifer is all about.