THE DAY I STOPPED ASKING WHY - A Guest Blog Post

Hello my fine-feathered Heifer-Friends (just go with me on that, I'm uncalfeinated).

A few days ago I shared another guest blog post from my friend Brett. It's called LIVE IN THE LIGHT.  Click that link to read it.  No really. Before you read this one, go click and read. (thank you!)  Gosh, I'm bossy today. I'm excited to share with you his next blog post: 

THE DAY I STOPPED ASKING WHY

It appears that after a certain point the realisations come thick and fast. This is the second in as many days.

Exactly when I stopped asking ‘why’ I’m not sure. But I know it was a conscious decision. Think about it, as a kid that’s all we do, it was certainly all I did. I was hungry for information. At any given opportunity I asked ‘why’? I was a sponge. But, sponges get saturated and maybe that’s what happened for me.  I don’t know.

What I do remember are episodes when asking ‘why’ seemed to set me apart from other kids in a way I didn’t enjoy. I remember once going to a party. There was a ‘punch and judy’ show which i was encouraged to watch. I knew that the puppets were controlled by a man behind the curtain. The other children seemed enthralled whereas I sat there dissecting the mechanics behind the facade. I knew this wasn’t ‘normal’ behaviour so, to please my parents I played along.

I’m in a car with my family. It’s late. My father has been drinking. A lot. He is driving home and doesn’t seem to care. My mother is worried. She is asking him if she should drive. He laughs a drunk laugh and says he’s fine. He isn’t. He can’t handle a corner and instead goes straight over a corner. I ask why? I’m young, but I’m not stupid. I understand the risks he is taking.

Years go by and I’m with my family. Conversations at various social gatherings inherently descended into ‘piss’ taking where the ability to apply any level of intellect was totally unheard of. Nobody seemed to want to ask ‘why’? They seemed content with just ‘being’.

We move forward. A friend commits suicide, the breakdown of a relationship, the Manchester bomb, the Victoria Station bomb..... the list goes on. My mind is now continuously whirring and the issues with my family that have haunted me for so long are added to the list. I hit sensory overload.

At that point, I decided to stop asking why. It was a totally conscious decision. There just too much input, too many unanswered questions. I wanted to understand everything and couldn’t. But as I stopped asking why I think the child inside me became sad.

For years, decades actually, this is how I existed. I was, in effect, dumbing myself down. My mind, or at least some of it, became quiet. But it didn’t work. My mind wouldn’t accept the off switch and every so often something bubbled up. To cope I started reinventing myself. It kept me busy. Metaphorically, and in some cases physically I ran. I moved cities, I changed jobs, I had girlfriend after girlfriend. I even travelled and ended up working in the Catskill mountains, north New York state, desperately trying to find peace. I even thought I found it once. I was lying on my back on a football pitch somewhere Catskills looking up at the bluest sky. The pitch was empty and for that moment I felt at peace. That moment is the reason for the tattoo on my back.

But you can’t run forever. You can’t keep reinventing. Sooner or later the mind finds a way to break through every wall you put up.

Eventually, whilst living in Leeds I hit rock bottom and finally sought out the help I so desperately needed. That was the start of the journey.

It’s got to be ten years later and I’ve stopped running. I mean properly stopped running. Yes, I run now, more than ever and love every step. But this is REAL running and I’m not running from anything, I’m running to a better place every step I take. Does the running still quiet my mind. Yes, absolutely. But that’s okay as it allows me to focus on things positively. Do I now ask ‘why’? Yes, all the time. Is the child inside loving being able to ask why? Yes, absolutely, yes. Can I cope if I don’t know the answer? Yes.  

Nobody can run forever. Nobody can shut down their mind forever. For me it was time to reboot and it feels amazing.

ABOUT BRETT: Brett is a father, a teacher, a runner. He completed his first triathlon at the tender age of 17 and has gone on to run every distance from sprint mile to marathon and aims to complete his first ultra marathon in 2018 at the not so tender age of 47. 

He is open about his battle with mental health and since hitting rock bottom 8 years ago has been on what he would describe as being a life changing journey ever since. He is a firm believer that through sharing and support anything is possible and that above all else we must strive to de-stigmatise mental health.   You can follow Brett on Twitter HERE.

 

Dealing With Loss - 110 Pounds of it

HEY HELLO and HAPPY MOO YEAR to everyone in the HeiferHood!

I know many of you are long time readers - but hoof-loads of you are brand new, too (so hey, howdy doo, and how YOU doin'?) ... therefore.... in case you're new to the hood, here's a little pic of me - before (and before, and before)  and now.

Big, Bigger, Biggest - and Healthiest

Big, Bigger, Biggest - and Healthiest

When I meet new friends for the first time and the subject of weight loss or weight loss maintenance comes up - my ears always perk up.  Why? Because I get it.  

I GET IT.

I was pushing 300 pounds and could barely make it off my couch for the next round of Mountain Dew and cookies. The only weights I lifted were double-stuff Oreos by the caseful. It wasn't a great way to live. Not at all.

One day I decided to make a change - it's like a switch in my brain was flipped on - and I decided it was time to lose the weight.  I subscribed to a popular weight-loss program after losing 40 pounds on my own and stalling out with any more weight loss.

I lost another 70ish pounds, and that was about 6 years ago - and I haven't looked back.

There's a common fallacy that losing weight is hard (which it IS!) ... but maintaining that loss should be easy, simple, no - hassle.

NOT. WRONG. NOPE. NEIN. NO WAY JOSE.

It takes HARD WORK to lose the weight - let's be real. It's really hard.  But for this heifer, maintaining the weight loss is even harder.  My weight loss program taught me how to eat properly.  For that, I'll be eternally grateful.  It taught me proper portion control. Proper nutrition.  All the tools I need to be healthy forHEIFERmore (haha see how I did that?)

But... you're talking to a food addict.  Someone who has an emotional attachment to food.  So even though I KNOW how to eat properly - some days it's harder than others.  Some days my body says YOU'RE HUNGRY, HEIFER! Eat (a 6pack of) donuts.  Eat 3 Big Macs. (well ok that may make me sick, but.....)

Enter.... one of the best weight management tools I've ever laid my little heifer hoofs on.  
(Cue the angels singing)

LOVIDIA....

WAIT WHAAAAA?

What's this little magical Lovidia you speak of, head heifer? 

Glad you asked. 

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Here's a little bit of information on Lovidia - my favorite weight management TOOL in the history of weight management tools (and trust me, peeps, I've tried them all). This is directly from the company - it's got all the important bits and pieces of detail that I'd forget anyway: 

  • Lovidia Puts You in Control - Eat Less Without Feeling Hungry! Lovidia is a patented formula that uses Gut Sensory Modulation™ (GSM) to reduce hunger. In the simplest terms, Lovidia helps you feel satisfied with fewer calories, making you feel as though you’ve eaten more than you have. This allows you to reduce the amount of food you eat without feeling hungry. And when you can cut calories without feeling hungry, it’s easier to lose weight.

  • The Lovidia Difference! Lovidia is not a drug, and it doesn’t come with a long list of unpleasant and possibly dangerous side effects. It doesn’t contain caffeine or other stimulants, fat blockers or diuretics. Lovidia’s proprietary hunger-control formula contains only natural GRAS (Generally Recognized as Safe) ingredients, so it does not cause jitters or other unpleasant side effects typically associated with weight-loss products. Lovidia is an easy-to-take pill that helps you control your hunger and lose weight naturally. Lovidia is not a “magic pill”, i.e., a pill that allows you to eat whatever you want and as much as you want. There is no magic pill and there will never be a magic pill.

  • The ingredients in Lovidia have been clinically tested in multiple double-blind, placebo controlled studies and have been shown to be both safe and effective.
     

  • Take one Lovidia tablet with breakfast and one Lovidia tablet with lunch. Swallow the tablet whole with a full glass of water.

Now.  Why do I love it? 

Because, crazy as it seems, THIS STUFF WORKS.  I was skeptical. I was.  I even told Marty, the prez of the company, that his little fancy skittle pills didn't interest me. :-) No really, I did.  Then a year later, I agreed to try them.  Imagine my shock when they actually worked.  
(Disclaimer: I received this product to sample in an exchange for my honest review). And I LOOOOOVE it.

Of course, I wanted to see some SCIENCE behind this magic pill. Because really, there is NO MAGIC PILL.  (And there's not, this stuff isn't magic - it's a TOOL).  If you're looking for the "how does this work" aspect - have a look HERE

Here's the breakdown, the heifer-dealio.  It controls my hunger.  Short and sweet.  I take it when I'm supposed to, and I'm just not hungry. Plain and simple.  Does it negate emotional eating? No.  But it makes life a WHOLE heck of a lot easier because my mind is not focused on food all the time.

The little carrying case is well-loved, I keep it with me in my purse and it's always got my Lovidia inside.  So yeah it's a little dirty.  I do love the case though - very small and goes everywhere with me.

The little carrying case is well-loved, I keep it with me in my purse and it's always got my Lovidia inside.  So yeah it's a little dirty.  I do love the case though - very small and goes everywhere with me.

It takes the guesswork out of eating for me - I eat right, I eat proper portions, and in between when my MIND would normally tell my body it's hungry (which, really it's not - it's thirsty, etc)... I'm just not hungry.  I don't THINK about food and therefore, I'm not eating mindlessly.  Lovidia helps control my hunger and is the best tool in my weight maintenance toolbox!


If you're on the fence about trying Lovidia - feel free to use my discount code runheiferrun20 for a 20% discount. Good thru 1/31/18.

 

To follow Lovidia on social media, here are their links:

 

  • These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.”

  • “Results vary based on program adherence. In the LOVIDIA Way study average weight loss was 13.6 pounds and waist circumference reduction was 2.7 inches.”

 

 

Outdoor Sports You Can Love

Howdy Heifers! Y'all know I love a good guest blog post every now and then! My friends over at Skateboard Guide contacted me a few months ago asking if they could submit a blog post for the HeiferHood... so without further adieu... here's a little something from them: 

Different Types of Outdoor Sports You Can Learn To Love

 

“Outdoor sports” ...  the phrase which when heard or read firstly creates an impression of lots of running, sweat, body exercise, team, and risks. Each of us is accustomed to various types of outdoor sports from childhood. From way back in childhood, we all had been fond of various outdoor sports whether it be football, hide and seek, rugby, cricket and much more. Each of us has some personal fondness to particular games. Within last few years, outdoor sports have reached a new edge of excitement. People all around the world are experimenting their potential of fear. Mountain climbing, skiing on the roughest edges of the mountains, roller sports is now among the most loved games. Few outdoor sports that anyone can learn to love very soon are:

•    Cycling: Cycling is a sport which can be taken to the higher level to experience huge adrenaline rush through the veins. To experience this level of adventure, sportsmen are now practicing this sport in the stiffs of the mountains, rushing through the beautiful yet risky white snows. Cycling keeps the body fit and provides huge muscular development in legs. Cycling is an outdoor sport which has recognition in Olympic and CommonWealth games. Love for this sport can provide worldwide fame too and a perfect toned up physique.

•    Mountain Climbing: This is a new kind of sport which is now in trend and is creating a lot of interest among the athletes of people of all ages. Mountain climbing is an outdoor sport which has a huge adventurous touch in it. Due to the huge craze of this sports, various campaigns and training schools where anyone can get trained to experience the huge excitement and adventure of moving through the mountains. Various equipment is now in the market which has made the sport much easier and safer. Even children too can experience the fun of mountain climbing. This is one of the most loved games of the fitness freak people as it burns 818 calories per hour.

•       Soccer / Rugby: These type of sports has always helped the players to develop the muscular strength and prevent themselves from cardiac and respiratory problems. This sport helps in increasing the mentality of the team spirit among them. The eye to leg coordination becomes too strong in this type of sport.  Soccer or rugby requires a lot of running and results in a huge amount of calorie loss in each match. Soccer is one of the sports which indulges huge amount of money in it.

•      Roller Sports: Roller sports are one of the most loved games among the young and middle-aged people. Roller sports has created a huge craze among the riders since 1965. It adds a good punch of adventure in the riders’ lives. Skating through the crowded traffic signals, beautifully sliding on the ice and performing the smooth moves, rushing through the goal on the ice creates mesmerizing effects in the minds’ of the athletes and also the viewers. There are different types of best rollerblades which are made for the various purposes. There are the different mechanism in the rollerblades for rushing through the smooth roads or harsh tracks or on the ice. This sport increases huge flexibility among the riders and provides huge gymnastic skills. Rollerblades that are raging high in the market are recreational inline skates (these are the most popular skates), roller hockey inline skates, fitness inline skates, racing inline skates, urban street skates, shop urban skates and fitness inline skates. Each skate is created for their particular purpose. The mechanism of the skates does depend on the base on which it would be used.

•    Downhill Mountain Biking: This is a new kind of sport which is high in trend. It burns 632 calories per hour. One of the famous athlete in this sport is Rachel Atherton. She says “It’s like nothing else on Earth.” This sport has been listed in World Cup too. This kind of sport is tremendously good for health. This sport is extremely good for cardiac muscles.

Each sport has its own punch of joy and adventure indulged among it. Each outdoor sports not only provides fitness yet it creates a sportsman spirit in each and every players’ minds. Sportsman spirit is highly necessary for each of us as it teaches us how to work as a team and for the team. Health is the actual wealth each individual possesses. So enjoy and explore a wide range of outdoor sport to keep yourself young and cheerful always.